Being Everyone Elses Door Mat

Stand up for yourself.

Being everyone elses door mat.

The term doormat makes it sound as if those with doormat like tendencies lie flat and still passively getting stepped on. By living in the moment you can be that person other people enjoy being with and you make relationships much easier. Here are 5 ways to stop being someone s doormat. These are all signs of what i call being a human doormat pleasing others at your own expense or being passive.

A friend or a partner frustrated on your behalf might say it outright. Don t feel overwhelmed by what others are asking of you. Everyone gives in order to make the work run smoothly and fairly. How about being with someone who is fully present.

Stop being such a people pleaser. People pleasing behavior begins in childhood when parents praise a child for obeying them but discourage him or her from asserting themselves according to jay earley author of finding your life purpose. Being with unavailable people is a struggle and building relationships with them extremely difficult. If you feel like everyone is asking for your help and time find ways to redirect the focus.

He asks you to leave after having sex. Signs you re being too passive people take advantage of your kindness. We enjoy being with her him because we can make a much deeper connection. But if you ve gone out four times and he s always at least one hour late you re being more and more of a doormat every time.

Maybe it s happened to you.